Date Safely Advice
When using the Thursday app or meeting in person:
Never share financial information or send money to another member
If another member asks you for money or any financial details, even if they say it is an emergency, please report it to us via the app or at firstname.lastname@example.org immediately.
Protect your Personal Information
Never share personal information with other members such as your National Insurance Number, how or work address. Avoid telling them your daily routine i.e. I stop at this particular coffee shop every weekday morning. If you have children, do not share information such as their names, ages, gender or where they go to school.
Stay on the app until you feel comfortable to move the conversation elsewhere
Whilst you're getting to know another member we strongly recommend keeping the conversation on the app until you feel comfortable enough to switch numbers or move to other social media channels.
Block and report ALL suspicious and offensive behaviour
Thursday is a community of likeminded singles. If any other member crosses the line and violates any one of the Thursday Code of Conduct rules. Examples of breaches include, but are not exclusive to:
Requests for money, donations or financial information
Threats, harassment and offensive messaging
Spam - members using an account to sell products or services
You can report any concerning or suspicious behaviour from a member’s profile page or messaging screen. If you receive an email asking for your member login details then please report it immediately to email@example.com.
More information of reporting and the consequences of false reporting can be found here (new page 2).
When meeting another member in person:
Meet in a public place
Meet in a public and populated place such as a popular, busy bar or coffee shop. Never meet at your home or another member’s home. If you feel pressure to meet in a private place, cancel the date.
Use your own transport
You must be in control of how you get to and from your date so that you can leave whenever you wish to. Public transport, taxis and your own car is recommended. Do not let the person you are meeting in your own transport. If you are driving yourself to a date it is important you abide by the the alcohol and drugs driving laws in the country you are in. UK Government guidance can be found here: https://www.gov.uk/drink-drive-limit. Further guidance can be found here https://www.nhtsa.gov/risky-driving/drunk-driving.
Tell others of your plans to go on a date
Tell a family member or friend of your plans to meet another member. Tell them where you are going, when you are going and make sure your phone is fully charged.
Know your limits
If your date pressures you to use drugs or drink more than you want to then say ‘no’ and leave the date. Remember the effects of drugs and alcohol can impair your alertness and judgement.
Don’t leave your drinks or personal possessions unattended
Always know where your drink has come from and where it is at all times. Only accept drinks served to you directly by the bar tended or waiter. Keep anything that contains personal information on your possession at all times including phone, wallet, purse and handbag.
Leave if you feel uncomfortable
If at any point you feel unsafe or your instincts tell you something isn’t ‘right’ then alert the bar tender, waiter or other members of the public and ask for help. Or, if you are just not feeling comfortable, then it is highly encouraged to end the date and leave.
Be careful while traveling. At Thursday we believe in the importance of being inclusive of all gender identities and sexual orientations, but the reality is this: nowhere in the world is without potential risk, and some countries have specific laws that target LGBTQ+ people.
Be sure to check the laws around you when you travel to a new place and research what types of legal protection, if any, are available to you based on sexual orientation. If you find yourself in unsafe territory, we suggest that you log out of the app or temporarily remove the Thursday app whilst you are there.
It’s important to exercise extreme caution if you choose to connect with new people in these countries - as some law enforcement have been known to use dating apps as tools for potential entrapment. Please bare in mind some countries have also recently introduced laws that criminalise communications between individuals on same-sex dating applications or websites and even aggravate penalties if that communication leads to sexual encounters. Visit ILGA World to see the latest sexual orientation laws by country.
Sexual health and consent
For advice on anything related to sexual health and consent please visit: https://www.letstalkaboutit.nhs.uk/other-services/sexual-assault/consent/
Additional resources for help, support and advice
Please click here to see a list of useful websites and contact numbers. This list is not exhaustive.
Remember if you feel that you are in immediate danger or need emergency call 999 (UK), 911 (US & Canada), or your local law enforcement agency.
For more information on staying safe online please check this website: https://getsafeonline.org/social-networking/online-dating
If you have any questions at all please submit a request to firstname.lastname@example.org.